Two Becoming One: The Mystery of Christian Marriage - Story

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Marriage is more than legal contract or romantic partnership—it's a sacrament that mirrors Christ's relationship with the Church. Paul's instruction to husbands in Ephesians 5:25—'Love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her'—sets an impossibly high standard that requires divine grace to fulfill. The Catholic understanding of marriage as sacrament means it's not just blessed by God but is actually a channel of God's grace to the couple and the world. When a man and woman exchange vows, they become ministers of the sacrament to each other. The mystery of 'two becoming one flesh' (Genesis 2:24) isn't just physical but spiritual, emotional, and psychological. This union reflects the Trinity's perfect unity while maintaining distinct persons. Marriage requires death to self—not the death of personality but of selfishness. Each spouse must learn to say 'I' less and 'we' more. Love isn't primarily a feeling but a choice, demonstrated through daily acts of service, forgiveness, and sacrifice. 1 Corinthians 13 describes this love: patient, kind, not envious or boastful, not arrogant or rude, not irritable or resentful. This is impossible to achieve through human effort alone—it requires God's grace active in the relationship. Marriage is designed to sanctify both partners, using the friction of two different people to polish away selfishness and produce holiness. The goal isn't happiness but holiness, though holiness often produces the deepest joy.